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Would it sound strange or maybe even sacrilegious for me to say that having an affair saved my marriage? I don’t want to offend anyone, but it did. Of course there was more to it than that so let me explain. We all know that God works in mysterious ways, but no, I’m not implying that God instigated or sanctioned my affair; that’s not His character. But, I do believe that God is willing to use every negative situation in our lives to bring about His perfect will, but it’s up to us to do the actually changing.
Looking back, six years this week to be exact, the most amazing yet precarious situation played a major part in our lives. And sure enough, it turned out to be the most amazing six weeks so far, and we had seen a lot since 1983 when I rededicated my life to the Lord. Even though, for all practical purposes, I felt our relationship was as good as dead. Angela, my soon-to-be ex-wife, had every reason to agree with me and every right to despise me for the rest of her life. But surprisingly enough, she didn’t. She was holding on to the impossible, or what everyone told her was impossible.
I had already moved out and filed for divorce and I was making plans to start a life with this woman who had once been my lover in high school. But, after I had been gone for weeks, something happened. And honestly, I didn’t see it coming. It reminds me of high school when Angela hit me in the head with an Algebra book in the middle of class. I didn’t see that coming either, but still, it hit me on the head and nearly gave me a concussion. No doubt, she has always been full of surprises.
At the end of 2012, I was making plans to start over in life. I was trying to convince my soon-to-be ex-wife that our marriage was over and she needed to face the facts. But, somehow, slowly but surely, things began to change. Eight-days before Christmas I found myself sitting on our front porch waiting for Angela to arrive home from work. I couldn’t wait to see her car driving up to the house. Honestly, I was counting the minutes until she would be back in my arms and I could hold her tight from that point on. She was my bride of 40 years and that day became a dream come true. Even though, I was as happy as could be, I was never more shocked at my quick change of plans. But I knew that Angela received her “Christmas Miracle”. The Christmas Miracle she had been praying for and had posted on Facebook several weeks before for all to see. This was true love. It was “Inconceivable Love” and it was unbelievable.
Because of this experience, I know that God can take any bad situation and work miracles from it. He loves to take lemons and make lemonade. He has the power to strike a match and cause the hidden sparks of a passionless marriage to burst into blazing flames. It doesn’t necessarily take intense counseling and years of hard work to see it happen. God makes it possible for hidden embers in hearts that are broken to be rekindled and be set on fire. But to do it, it takes more than just crossing our fingers and hoping for change. Why doesn’t it usually happen? it’s due to emotions of anger, resentment and bitterness that halt any possibility of reconciliation. It’s due to our pride that keeps our relationships in chains. But, believe me, it does’t take a different person and a new life to fulfill those longing desires that seem to overtake us. It takes at least one spouse in a marital relationship who will choose to step up and test the power of God and His word. Then God will prepare us to receive a miracle, this miracle of “inconceivable love”. But, it’s up to us to accept it and do what God asks. Like anything else, it just depends on how much we want it.
A message from Paul Richards:
The slide-show at the right begins when Angela and I were young. It’s a “picture show” of the journey our lives took and it all pertains to our story, our book. It begins with our childhood, then it takes you through our days in high school. Next, there are exciting events such as our wedding day, building our dream home, building our business and other pertinent situations and memories of our lives. We were blessed with many astounding miracles and we want to share them with others. Why? Because we feel it’s exciting enough that others can actually benefit from the love that Angela was able to tap into.
Although, we have had many ups and downs throughout our marriage and we’ve faced twenty years of rough times due to the Bipolar Illness that attacked me in the 90’s. The manic, from the illness, tried to take control and play havoc in our lives and it was eventually what caused our downfall. But even so, we want our lives to be an open book, obviously, so we can show how this powerful and inconceivable love kept us together.
On the Audio-Book page you can listen to our story “Inconceivable” and it won’t cost you a thing. This rare and special love we are expressing, changed my mind and brought me back home to Angela when I thought it was the last thing I wanted to do. I was interested in getting out from under the tremendous amount of past baggage and in my mind, this was a possible way to do it. Coming in contact over the internet with the girl from high school got the wheels in my imagination rolling. Starting a new life with someone else sounded good at the time, even though it wasn’t meant to be nor did the Bible sanction it. What happened six years ago has made such an impact and is still making one as we move on with life. I just have to tell the world about it. That’s why I designed this website like I have..
We hope you enjoy the story of our lives and we hope that you can learn more about tapping into this “unconditional” and “inconceivable” love that has resurrected our marriage. Believe me, it can change your life! We are not charging a dime for the audio-book. I do not want people to think I’m excited about what we are presenting because we are making money from it. That’s not the purpose. We know there are valuable life-skills within our book and especially within the Word of God that can make a tremendous difference in your relationships. We don’t want “money” to stand in the way.
If someone feels inclined to make a donation and help us in our efforts to spread the “love”, than that will be appreciated. You can read more about it on the “Contact Us” page. Thank you very kindly. Glen and Debbie Guttenfelder (Paul & Angela Richards)